Author: Shoba Narayan
Publisher: Rain Tree (Rupa Publications)
Pages: 269
Price: Rs 395
Genre: Non Fiction / Memoir
Rating: 9/10
Format: Hardbound
I read Mint Lounge, mostly because I love reading about culture,
books, movies, urban life, etc. So I have read and enjoyed Shoba Narayan’s
columns. When I first came across this book, I was completely charmed by its
cover page. It evokes nostalgia. I noticed the author and the subject of the
book, much later. And then, I just had to read it. Thanks to Blogadda, I did
not have to wait for too long.
In ‘Return to India’, Shoba Narayan writes about her journey from
being a young girl chasing American dream and better opportunities, to a mother
caught in an emotional quagmire of how to provide the best of both countries
(India and America) to her children. In the author’s words, ‘immigrant dilemma
is at the heart of the book’.
The book begins with her pressing desire to escape from India and
its many problems, to chase better opportunities in America, to live a better
life and to become whatever she chooses to become. She had romantic notions
about life and opportunities in America. And the book eventually tells us, they
weren’t unfounded. Shoba achieves much more than she ever dreamt of and in
fields she would have never explored in India.
However, the book is not so much about whether she gets the kind
of opportunities she dreams of, rather it is about finding one’s identity. In
that way, it also reminded me about ‘the Namesake’ by Jhumpa Lahiri. When she
talks about her younger self, cajoling and convincing her parents and family to
let her go abroad, she could be anyone of us. It mirrors the life of so many
young people who leave their homes for education and better opportunities,
whether for a different city or a different country [as she also mentions in the
Prologue]. The angst of a parent is the same. The underlying fear that the
child would never return, is the same.
America never fails her, with its wonderful people, myriad of
opportunities, and a great lifestyle. For the 15 years of her life in America,
first single and later married, she is never bothered by the weighty questions
of identity and roots, culture and family. Only when she becomes a mother, she
dreams of providing her daughter with the same kind of loving environment,
familiar surroundings, loving grandparents, fussing relatives, as she had experienced
while growing up. In India, people go out of their way to help relatives and
friends even if it meant inconvenience for them. That is how we are raised and
that is how we become.
Though she considered herself modern and adventurous, Shoba
surprises herself by agreeing for arranged marriage. And later, as a mother,
she is always consumed by thoughts of how to keep her children rooted in Indian
culture while living in America. Life comes a full circle for her when she
feels a similar kind of angst like her mother on the question of whether she
would be okay if her daughter chooses to marry an American. She discovers that
actually under the surface, she was quite traditional.
I loved the book. The author has a fresh voice, and her writing
style is witty, particularly in the first half. She is a natural writer and
draws the reader to the story well, never losing his attention. Although I did
find the part on her dilemma of returning to India a bit long drawn but may be
it actually was. Such decisions are not easy. For quite a long time, she goes
back and forth on her decision, even till the last moment. The various
conversations are interesting. Towards the first half of the book, she is particularly
charming, adventurous and exciting, while toward the ending, perhaps because of
the dilemma she was in, there is restlessness.
But all said and done, it is a fabulous book. There is something
to which every reader would relate to whether it is the dreamy-eyed young girl
or dynamic woman chasing opportunities, young students leaving home for
education or those in 20s-and early 30s driven by ambition and passion, angst
of a mother or the many challenges of parenthood!
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